A Boy At School Snapped Her Bra. What She Did Next Is Gold.

Prepare to be riled up by this tale, yet rest assured, the conclusion will leave you feeling content. A young student decides she won’t stand for harassment and boldly defends herself… and when her mother steps in, her support is nothing short of admirable! Women and young girls alike should never endure such behavior; why then should children be subjected to it?

Discover the details below…

My role as an Emergency Room nurse means I’m separated from my phone; it stays in my locker. Then, a call for me comes into the hospital’s reception on a personal line.

Phone: “Hello, this is [Teacher] from [School]. We’ve had a situation with [Your Daughter]. Your presence is requested immediately.”

Me: “Has she fallen ill or gotten hurt? Can it hold off until my shift concludes in two hours?”

Phone: “[Your Daughter] was involved in a physical altercation with a peer. We’ve been attempting to reach you for nearly an hour. It’s quite urgent.”

Upon arrival at the school, I’m swiftly shown to the Principal’s office. Present are my daughter, her guidance counselor, a male teacher, the principal, a boy with a bloody nose and flushed cheeks, and his parents.

Principal: “Mrs. [My Surname], how nice of you to AT LAST make it!”

Me: “Apologies for the delay; the ER was hectic. I just finished suturing a young child with over 40 stitches who had been assaulted with a kitchen utensil by his mother, after which I had to handle the police interview regarding the ordeal. Pardon any inconvenience caused.”

(The principal visibly squirms, trying not to show his discomfort before explaining the incident: the boy had snapped my daughter’s bra, and in response, she had struck him not once, but twice. I sensed a greater displeasure directed at my daughter than the boy.)

Me: “So, are you inquiring if I’ll be pressing charges for his sexual harassment towards my daughter, along with holding the school accountable for permitting such an act?”

The mention of sexual harassment sets off a flurry of uneasy reactions and overlapping defenses.)

Teacher: “I believe you may be exaggerating the severity of the incident.”

Advisor: “Let’s maintain perspective here.”

Principal: “You’re not grasping the core issue here.”

(Amid the chaos, the boy’s mother bursts into tears. I then turn to my daughter for her version of events.)

Daughter: “He kept on snapping at my bra. I told him to stop several times but he wouldn’t listen, so I reported it to Mr. [Teacher]. He dismissed my concern. When [Boy] snapped my bra again and even went so far as to unhook it, that’s when I hit him. After that, he stopped bothering me.”

(I challenge the teacher’s inaction.)

Me: “You allowed this to happen? Did you not think to intervene? Try coming here and touch me inappropriately – how would that feel?”

Teacher: “What are you suggesting?! Absolutely not!”

Me: “Isn’t it clear that this kind of behavior is improper? Would you like to try that on Mrs. [Advisor], or the boy’s mother, or even me? Is it because they’re children that it’s dismissed as mischief?”

Principal: “Mrs. [My Surname], respectfully, [Your Daughter] did physically attack another student.”

Me: “She was defending herself from a sexual offense initiated by another student. Size them up: he stands nearly 6 feet tall, weighing 160 pounds, while she’s just over 5 feet and barely weighs 84 pounds. He has a height advantage and is twice her weight. Should she have tolerated his continued harassment? If the teacher, whose job it was to offer protection, couldn’t be bothered, what recourse was left for her after he unfastened her bra with such force that it came undone?”

(The boy’s father now looks angry and embarrassed while the boy’s mother continues to weep and the teacher avoids my gaze. I firmly address the principal.)

Me: “I’m taking her out of here. It seems he’s learned his lesson. My hope is that no other girl in this school experiences this again. It would not be tolerated if done to a staff member, so it baffles me that it could be considered acceptable to a 15-year-old girl. I plan to bring this to the attention of the school administrators. And you,” *looking at the boy* “if you ever lay a finger on my daughter again, rest assured I will press charges for sexual assault. Are we clear?”

Enraged as I was, I took my daughter and her belongings and we departed. I conveyed the issue to the School Board, whom I had connections with and was assured that the matter would be handled with appropriate seriousness.

My daughter found herself reassigned to a different classroom for that particular subject, away from both the boy and the teacher.